Loneliness n its cure

There are simple and effective ways to cure loneliness, yet loneliness remains a serious problem in today’s world. People are often afraid to seek new friends or don’t know if they can trust strangers. They may not know where to go to find a good friend, or where to turn in time of need. And some individuals may be surrounded by people, yet . . .

they still feel lonely and unfulfilled. It may be a struggle to stop feeling lonely in the midst of a crowd.

A Good First Step

The best way to cure loneliness is to fully accept that you are lonely and to become aware of how loneliness is affecting your life.

Defense mechanisms may prevent people from recognizing just how lonely they feel. And they may be compensating for loneliness in various ways, such as working, drinking, or partying too much, perhaps in an effort to push aside empty or sad feelings.

Or some people may hang out with the wrong friends to deal with their loneliness . . . friends who may be a bad influence.

Sometimes people deny their loneliness or try to ignore chronic lonely feelings and despair. Also, some folks who have been lonely for a long time feel like their loneliness is incurable. Thus, they never really try to solve the lonelinesss puzzle.

No matter what your situation may be, here's the good news: you can cure loneliness with a minimum of effort! No, it’s not as hard to do as you may think. Of course, if a person’s loneliness has led to a depressive condition . . .

. . . he or she may have a hard time trying to break through the barrier of discouragement to explore possible solutions and anecdotes.

Steps You Can Take To Cure Loneliness

1. Figure out where you can find some good friends. Visiting your local watering hole, lounge or bar may not be the best choice. So where can you go?

Reading your local newspaper may be a good place to start. Even in small town papers, you’ll find articles on community events, and the activities of groups and organizations. If one interests you, make some phone calls and look into it.

For example

Let’s say you love gardening. And you read an article about the local chapter of a gardening club and what they are doing in your area. Call a contact person or representative and ask how you can become involved with the group. Go to their next meeting and meet some people. Go to the meetings and participate in a project.

You’ll meet some mighty fine people, have fun doing work you love and learn more about gardening; plus, you’ll be able to share your gardening wisdom with others . . . all of which will make you feel LESS lonely.

2. Think about ways you can be of service to others in need. By finding a way to help others, your own emotional needs will often be met, and it will help you to cure loneliness in a big way. When we give of the heart we receive of the heart. The act of doing a good deed pushes out lonely feelings and opens the door to feeling more connected with others, and engenders a sense of belonging and attachment.

In touching someone’s life, our loneliness dissipates. And our service opens new doors of opportunity and connection.

3. Look in the yellow pages or search the internet for names of organizations that do good work in your community, such as non-profit groups. Check into two or three groups and get involved in one or two. Offer your expertise or time. You’ll meet lots of good people who are trying to make a difference in the world. And just one new friend may make a difference in your life . . . and help you to cure lonelienss!

4. One of my favorite ways to cure loneliness (one I heartily recommend to my clients) is to go within and consult the wisdom of your body. You probably have a few good ideas locked within yourself, just waiting to be uncovered. Perhaps they have been trying to come to your attention through dreams, or day dreams, but you haven’t noticed or you’ve been too busy to follow up on your good ideas.

Just how do you find the treasure-trove of helpful information hidden within? It’s easier than you might think! Pay attention to your daydreams and fantasies, which can be useful ways of exploring logical opportunities for change.

Think about how you can cure loneliness before you fall asleep, increasing the likelihood you’ll dream about it. Write your dreams down as soon as you awaken. Analyze the symbols to unlock the wisdom of your dreams.

Think! Brainstorm to find as many good ideas as you can. You can do insight meditation, too, a powerful technique for plumbing the depths of your inner mind.

5. Take a tip from the happiness literature. The recent research on happiness reveals the secrets of happy people and shows the way to cure the lonely, heavy-hearted blues. The research suggests that the happiest people are those who are outgoing and optimistic types who go out and make good things happen, rather than waiting for good things to come to them.

So take a step in the right suggestion. Make something good happen. Don’t sit back and feel defeated. Put a smile on your face and do something different to cure your loneliness.

6. Last but not least is my final suggestion for this article. Take in a decions making partner. Ask a good friend or trusted ally to help you cure your loneliness. Talk to your pastor, priest or rabbi, or other spiritual leader, speak to a professional counselor or coach, and take their suggestions seriously. If you are religious or spiritually oriented, ask your Higher Power for help, and trust in your faith. The help you seek will come to you in one form or another.

The Best News Of All

We’ve come to the end of our article and it’s time for me to reveal the best news of all . . .

What is my terrific news? A secret technique or amazingly magical strategy to cure loneliness?

It’s just a simple word of advice. Believe!

Believe you can and you will find a way to cure your loneliness and be happier than ever. Everyone gets lonely at times. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or to fear.

In Review

Just take your loneliness in stride, avoid despair and take the right steps . . . simple steps . . . that will eventually result in an improvement of your condition. Plus, don't forget to believe . . . believe and you will achieve!

You have the power to change your life for the better today. Even if you’ve failed to cure your loneliness many times in the past, you can still turn over a new leaf. In fact, it is the path of failure that leads us to the promised land of success. The more you fail, the closer you get to your goal. Every failure teaches us a valuable lesson. It's up to us to look for those lessons.

It's important to tink positively, believe you can cure loneliness and act! Why wait until tomorrow? Get going and good luck! I know you can do it.